When you doubt yourself

Having been laid off twice in the past year and having a relationship fall apart because of my doing ( NOT infidelity) I know a little about self doubt. Life moments like these will have you questioning everything you have done to “deserve” this. Wondering what you could have done better is very productive but…

Oh to be free

What if embracing my pain, I’d be free What if I could be all that I could be like an Army of one, full of strentgh and love  With beauty and grace much like a dove  Cuz the pain is like carrying an extra ton oh to be free, now that would be fun To…

Slow and steady wins the race

As someone who is quite analytical and motivated I  am constantly assessing ways in which I can make changes and improve my life. For example there are unhealthy habits I have formed such as eating too many sweets and as of late watching far too much television.  I would like to change these and other…

There is no room for pride in relationships

The other day I was lamenting to my older sister about an argument my boyfriend and I had. He has a way of going silent to retreat and think when he is upset or hurt. His reaction unfortunately triggers my fear of abandonment and leaves me feeling a bit anxious. As I was discussing with…

What to do when life gets tough

It is easy to be positive and happy when life is going well but what about when life gets tough? You know when you can’t seem to catch a break and things around you are crumbling.  Between being laid off twice in seven months, my stepdads cancer, family issues, relationship drama and a racist, sexist,…

When we can’t see the Mountains

I first moved to California in July 2009.  I knew there were mountains surrounding me because I had visited before, however, I could not see the mountains; smog covered them for the first couple months I was here.  Though I knew they were there from memory, I could not see them.  It was not until…

My Travels

Growing up I didn’t think much of traveling because it was just not something that was feasible. My mother, a single mom of three, did her best to provide off the meager income she made, but there was no money left over for travel.  I remember feeling a bit jealous of cousins who were able…

Why Black Lives should Matter to us All

I am a white Irish woman who grew up in Wisconsin in a low income neighborhood. Growing up in that neighborhood allowed me to interact with people from different backgrounds and equally as important, my mother taught me a very important lesson at a young age.  It was a simple lesson of empathy and love. Love everyone without exceptions.…

The Modern Scarlet Letter

Most of us have heard the story the Scarlet Letter where the woman is punished for having an affair. She is chastisted and forced to wear the letter “A” on her chest as a constant reminder of her adultery.  The time period of the book is the mid 1600s. Nowadays when most people read the…

My search for love

I get asked the question a lot “why are you single?”  This is a question with so many facets its hard to know where to begin. But here goes. (Side note: this is not easy to write because I know there may be family members or others that I don’t really want to see this…