When you doubt yourself 

Having been laid off twice in the past year and having a relationship fall apart because of my doing ( NOT infidelity) I know a little about self doubt. Life moments like these will have you questioning everything you have done to “deserve” this. Wondering what you could have done better is very productive but… Continue reading When you doubt yourself 

There is no room for pride in relationships

The other day I was lamenting to my older sister about an argument my boyfriend and I had. He has a way of going silent to retreat and think when he is upset or hurt. His reaction unfortunately triggers my fear of abandonment and leaves me feeling a bit anxious. As I was discussing with… Continue reading There is no room for pride in relationships

When we can’t see the Mountains

I first moved to California in July 2009.  I knew there were mountains surrounding me because I had visited before, however, I could not see the mountains; smog covered them for the first couple months I was here.  Though I knew they were there from memory, I could not see them.  It was not until… Continue reading When we can’t see the Mountains

Stop giving all the benefits 

Stop giving all the benefits without the commitment. If you desire commitment from him and you are doing everything for him, you need to stop.  I dont care if you are cooking, cleaning, giving him pedicures, washing his briefs, giving him massages, buying him things, sexing him, it is not going to make him commit. … Continue reading Stop giving all the benefits