When you doubt yourself 

Having been laid off twice in the past year and having a relationship fall apart because of my doing ( NOT infidelity) I know a little about self doubt. Life moments like these will have you questioning everything you have done to “deserve” this. Wondering what you could have done better is very productive but… Continue reading When you doubt yourself 

When we can’t see the Mountains

I first moved to California in July 2009.  I knew there were mountains surrounding me because I had visited before, however, I could not see the mountains; smog covered them for the first couple months I was here.  Though I knew they were there from memory, I could not see them.  It was not until… Continue reading When we can’t see the Mountains

Forgiving myself and letting go of guilt

Why is it forgiving ourselves seems far more difficult than forgiving others? I have always been a pretty forgiving person. I am usually the first one to call after an argument and was the peace maker in my family growing up. But when it comes to forgiving myself, well that’s a different story.  In the… Continue reading Forgiving myself and letting go of guilt

Emotionally Unavailable

I’ve dated men from different backgrounds, statures, and regions but one thing the majority of them had in common was they were emotionally unavailable.  “emotionally unavailable” refers to those who create barriers between themselves and others in an effort to avoid emotional intimacy.” The ironic thing is, the guys I dated would open up to… Continue reading Emotionally Unavailable