There is no room for pride in relationships

The other day I was lamenting to my older sister about an argument my boyfriend and I had. He has a way of going silent to retreat and think when he is upset or hurt. His reaction unfortunately triggers my fear of abandonment and leaves me feeling a bit anxious. As I was discussing with… Continue reading There is no room for pride in relationships

When we can’t see the Mountains

I first moved to California in July 2009.  I knew there were mountains surrounding me because I had visited before, however, I could not see the mountains; smog covered them for the first couple months I was here.  Though I knew they were there from memory, I could not see them.  It was not until… Continue reading When we can’t see the Mountains

Why Black Lives should Matter to us All

I am a white Irish woman who grew up in Wisconsin in a low income neighborhood. Growing up in that neighborhood allowed me to interact with people from different backgrounds and equally as important, my mother taught me a very important lesson at a young age.  It was a simple lesson of empathy and love. Love everyone without exceptions.… Continue reading Why Black Lives should Matter to us All

Forgiving myself and letting go of guilt

Why is it forgiving ourselves seems far more difficult than forgiving others? I have always been a pretty forgiving person. I am usually the first one to call after an argument and was the peace maker in my family growing up. But when it comes to forgiving myself, well that’s a different story.  In the… Continue reading Forgiving myself and letting go of guilt