I get it times are changing. But not all changes are good. One shift in dating I’ve noticed throughout the years is that women are becoming the pursuers.
Don’t get me wrong there is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman going after what she wants. However, in my experiences and that of women I know, if a man is interested in a getting to know you he will find a way.
I once had a crush on this guy at my church, we would talk in Bible chat, and I told him we should go out sometime. He gave me his number and I initiated most of our texts. we finally went out but he never really stepped up. I told myself he was shy so that’s why I was “pursuing.” well around that same time he started dating a woman that became his girlfriend. Me pursing is not why it didn’t go anywhere. He just wasn’t that interested in me and that’s ok. However, if I would have let him take the lead and express his interest or lack thereof I would have known. He obviously wasn’t to shy to pursue his girlfriend because he wanted to date her.
The moral of the story is if he is interested he will make an effort.
PS I am not at all saying women should sit back and do nothing. They need to make an effort and show interest as well, just not with someone that’s not into them.